Dear Dr. Truth.....

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I caught my boyfriend looking at male pornography on the internet.
He says that he was just "curious" and that he has only done it on one or two other occassions.
Before this happened we rarely had sex and never spent time together.
We've been together for two years and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just there to make him look like he is a heterosexual.
I'm presently staying with some friends, but still talking to him on the phone every day.
I miss him terribly but I'm scared to go back and I feel uncomfortable around him.
He says he wants me ONLY and that I can trust him, but I don't feel that I can.
What should I do?

Thank you.
Scared...











Dear Scared,

Looking at male pornography is not enough to convict him of being gay even though this would not be the norm for most straight guys.
Ask yourself the following questions before making a decision:
1. Does he seem turned on to you?
2. Does he have any history of gay experiences?
3. When you say you rarely had sex, could he explain why?
What is making you so uncomfortable?
Is it that you think he might be gay or that you just pick up on that vibe?
Bottom line is that he doesn't seem like he's telling you and you don't feel like you are getting a straight answer.
I would trust my instincts.
We all know when someone is turned on by us and you don't seem to be feeling that at all!
He may be bisexual or just plain curious but if this makes you feel too uncomfortable, maybe this just isn't a safe bet!

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I was friends with a girl last year and then it turned into a relationship. We only went out for a month but I really liked this girl... I thought she was the one - until one day she told me she had cheated on me with 3 guys in one weekend.

Nothing major..just kissing but I still broke up with her.

Ever since I have quit dating and I have a somewhat of a dislike for women and I really hate her..

I always think that all women are sluts and I know all aren't but every one I come in contact with turns out bad.

Everyone tells me I'm to young to give up(19) but I don't care...every girl makes me sick and I don't wanna waste my sweetness and kindness on people who will just hurt me! And no Im not gay!

Please write me back soon and tell me how I can get over her.








Dear Recovering

Wow! Sounds like this girl really did a numnber on you!

Your trust in women has really been shattered but please remember that this is only temporary. As we go through life, we have many bad experiences but each one of these exists so that we can learn more about ourselves and the type of people we want to be with.

So one girl hurt you, so what! You might have thought she was the one, but I guess she wasn't! All that means is that the right one is going to appear one day.

If you isolate yourself, you will not be available to meet her... and then what!

In the meantime, while you are getting over this, take really good care of yourself, work on your pride and self-confidence, and keep your distance from enmeshments with women in general.

Treat girls only as friends and companions but do not get emotionally involved.

Believe it or not, one day, your pain will leave you and the perfect girl will appear. I guarantee it.

And I want to know when it happens.

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I caught my boyfriend looking at male pornography on the internet.
He says that he was just "curious" and that he has only done it on one or two other occassions.
Before this happened we rarely had sex and never spent time together.
We've been together for two years and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just there to make him look like he is a heterosexual.
I'm presently staying with some friends, but still talking to him on the phone every day.
I miss him terribly but I'm scared to go back and I feel uncomfortable around him.
He says he wants me ONLY and that I can trust him, but I don't feel that I can.
What should I do?

Thank you.
Scared...











Dear Scared,

Looking at male pornography is not enough to convict him of being gay even though this would not be the norm for most straight guys.
Ask yourself the following questions before making a decision:
1. Does he seem turned on to you?
2. Does he have any history of gay experiences?
3. When you say you rarely had sex, could he explain why?
What is making you so uncomfortable?
Is it that you think he might be gay or that you just pick up on that vibe?
Bottom line is that he doesn't seem like he's telling you and you don't feel like you are getting a straight answer.
I would trust my instincts.
We all know when someone is turned on by us and you don't seem to be feeling that at all!
He may be bisexual or just plain curious but if this makes you feel too uncomfortable, maybe this just isn't a safe bet!

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

She should have a serious conversation with her boyfriend, some people are indeed "curious" but this is not the first time he looks at gay porn. There are questions to be answered, and if she can't get them answered,she should leave. " Alway trut your first instincts"

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I was friends with a girl last year and then it turned into a relationship. We only went out for a month but I really liked this girl... I thought she was the one - until one day she told me she had cheated on me with 3 guys in one weekend.

Nothing major..just kissing but I still broke up with her.

Ever since I have quit dating and I have a somewhat of a dislike for women and I really hate her..

I always think that all women are sluts and I know all aren't but every one I come in contact with turns out bad.

Everyone tells me I'm to young to give up(19) but I don't care...every girl makes me sick and I don't wanna waste my sweetness and kindness on people who will just hurt me! And no Im not gay!

Please write me back soon and tell me how I can get over her.








Dear Recovering

Wow! Sounds like this girl really did a numnber on you!

Your trust in women has really been shattered but please remember that this is only temporary. As we go through life, we have many bad experiences but each one of these exists so that we can learn more about ourselves and the type of people we want to be with.

So one girl hurt you, so what! You might have thought she was the one, but I guess she wasn't! All that means is that the right one is going to appear one day.

If you isolate yourself, you will not be available to meet her... and then what!

In the meantime, while you are getting over this, take really good care of yourself, work on your pride and self-confidence, and keep your distance from enmeshments with women in general.

Treat girls only as friends and companions but do not get emotionally involved.

Believe it or not, one day, your pain will leave you and the perfect girl will appear. I guarantee it.

And I want to know when it happens.

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

Now who said he was gay?!! He's so defensive! He's just a kid, he will encounter many relationships where he will get hurt one way or the other...his emotions are running high right now so anything in a skirt is the devill !!! She kiss three guys, it was wrong of her.. but to think he cast woman aside over a kiss what if she had slept with them (maybee she did) then what would he do? I don't want to know! He think he's hurt he has a long road ahead of him.

[ECO]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I caught my boyfriend looking at male pornography on the internet.
He says that he was just "curious" and that he has only done it on one or two other occassions.
Before this happened we rarely had sex and never spent time together.
We've been together for two years and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just there to make him look like he is a heterosexual.
I'm presently staying with some friends, but still talking to him on the phone every day.
I miss him terribly but I'm scared to go back and I feel uncomfortable around him.
He says he wants me ONLY and that I can trust him, but I don't feel that I can.
What should I do?

Thank you.
Scared...

She was not putting out and that's why he was looking at gay porn.

On a side note most of us who have watched the Animal Planet (TV) have seen animals having sex does that make us animal F'ers?

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I caught my boyfriend looking at male pornography on the internet.
He says that he was just "curious" and that he has only done it on one or two other occassions.
Before this happened we rarely had sex and never spent time together.
We've been together for two years and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just there to make him look like he is a heterosexual.
I'm presently staying with some friends, but still talking to him on the phone every day.
I miss him terribly but I'm scared to go back and I feel uncomfortable around him.
He says he wants me ONLY and that I can trust him, but I don't feel that I can.
What should I do?

Thank you.
Scared...

She was not putting out and that's why he was looking at gay porn.

On a side note most of us who have watched the Animal Planet (TV) have seen animals having sex does that make us animal F'ers?

It's natutral for animals to have sex just as it is for humans.But is it natural for a stright guy to watch gay porn? I'm not saying that he's gay...he could be Bi-curious, he looks at it on more than one occassion. Maybe he finds it funny, just as do when i watch animals having sex on Animal Planet.

[ECO]

She was not putting out and that's why he was looking at gay porn.

On a side note most of us who have watched the Animal Planet (TV) have seen animals having sex does that make us animal F'ers?

If you are deliberarely watching the Animal Planet just to see the animals have sex, then yes! Whatever F'ers mean.

Lol, if someone watches just to see the animals doing it then they have issues! Then again a fair share of the people at the zoos spend way to much time watching the monkeys do what they do. While we are on the subject, you should see how many people "witness" the act when show dogs breed. .

F'ers=fuc ers

[ECO]

It's natutral for animals to have sex just as it is for humans.But is it natural for a stright guy to watch gay porn? I'm not saying that he's gay...he could be Bi-curious, he looks at it on more than one occassion. Maybe he finds it funny, just as do when i watch animals having sex on Animal Planet.

I can't speak for all straight guys but I will not watch two dudes having sex. The site of two men kissing even turns my stomach. While I don't watch lesbian sex porno movies that sort of stuff does not disturb me at all......I might be lesbian curious

[ECO]

LOL @ Bi-curious. BTW, I don't believe in bi... any man who has affection (sexually) for another man is gay. Any man who has sex with another fellow is gay, any man who finds other men attractive in a sexual way is, gay. Can straight men have sex with another man for money with no physical attraction (as one t.v. show was trying to convince it's audience off not too long ago)? Not in my opinion. If a man repeatedly goes to a gay porn site to be aroused by it's content. Happy happy happy.

How about two men having sex in prison? From what I hear (never been to jail) men can have all sorts of gay sex in jail and when they are released they are straight again. Since they had gay sex in jail, does that make them gay for life?

[Rose21]

It's natutral for animals to have sex just as it is for humans.But is it natural for a stright guy to watch gay porn? I'm not saying that he's gay...he could be Bi-curious, he looks at it on more than one occassion. Maybe he finds it funny, just as do when i watch animals having sex on Animal Planet.

I can't speak for all straight guys but I will not watch two dudes having sex. The site of two men kissing even turns my stomach. While I don't watch lesbian sex porno movies that sort of stuff does not disturb me at all......I might be lesbian curious

I don't expect any man to be disturb by lesbian sex. Men in general will condem another men for been gay. But when it comes to lesbians, all is well! I hear men say some of the most ridiculous reasons as to why there's notting wrong with been a lesbian.

[ECO]

I don't expect any man to be disturb by lesbian sex. Men in general will condem another men for been gay. But when it comes to lesbians, all is well! I hear men say some of the most ridiculous reasons as to why there's notting wrong with been a lesbian.

See, this is where men are WRONG........ guys being gay is cool since it leaves more women for the straight guys. Women who are lesbian and not bi just take away from our available pool of women to chase. So, gay is cool and lesbian is bad

[Rose21]

I don't expect any man to be disturb by lesbian sex. Men in general will condem another men for been gay. But when it comes to lesbians, all is well! I hear men say some of the most ridiculous reasons as to why there's notting wrong with been a lesbian.

See, this is where men are WRONG........ guys being gay is cool since it leaves more women for the straight guys. Women who are lesbian and not bi just take away from our available pool of women to chase. So, gay is cool and lesbian is bad

lol, i wish all men would see it that way,they like to reason first

[ECO]

NO NO! Straight men are raped in prison, they can't help that, or the fight to protect their rear-end

Come on, you don't really believe the rape stories now do you?

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I've been involved in a relationship with a guy for one year.
The relationship was perfect until after the eigth month when I found out my boyfriend is living with his daughter's mother.
I realized this when I noticed that he did not give me a phone number, let alone invite me over to his home.
I told him I did not feel comfortable with his living arrangement.
He assures me that his living situation was not always this way, he's only looking out for his little girl, the mother has a separate room in the house and they are no longer intimate and haven't been for sometime.
To this day he still practically spends all of his time with me and goes home very late in the evening.
He says the only reason he goes home at night and spends most of his weekends away from me is so he can dedicate some time to his daughter.
I love this guy to death because not only is he there for me, he's helpful, takes me on trips, gives me advise, doesn't ask for me anything and the list continues.
As ugly as his living arrangement seems, I need to know if there's a possibility he could be telling the truth about the relationship between he and his daughter's mother or am I just completely out of my mind for remaining in a relationship with him?
Please give an honest opinion.









What can I say.
I've heard of stranger arrangements.
This is something only you can decide.
Trust your intuition and ask yourself what you want with this man.
Are you considering marriage in the future?
If so, is he willing to leave his current living arrangement?
Have the two of you discussed having any kind of future together?
I know several couples through my practice who have had this type of arrangement and it is always a very individual thing.
I guess my answer in this case would depend on how close you feel to him and if the two of you are able to communicate about planning some kind of future together.

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

[Rose21]

Alright you guys, hear is another fool-in-love who need your help!
You all are such experts dig in!

[ECO]

She has to trust him or move on.

[Rose21]

Dear Dr. TRuth,

I've been involved in a relationship with a guy for one year.
The relationship was perfect until after the eigth month when I found out my boyfriend is living with his daughter's mother.
I realized this when I noticed that he did not give me a phone number, let alone invite me over to his home.
I told him I did not feel comfortable with his living arrangement.
He assures me that his living situation was not always this way, he's only looking out for his little girl, the mother has a separate room in the house and they are no longer intimate and haven't been for sometime.

To this day he still practically spends all of his time with me and goes home very late in the evening.
He says the only reason he goes home at night and spends most of his weekends away from me is so he can dedicate some time to his daughter.

I love this guy to death because not only is he there for me, he's helpful, takes me on trips, gives me advise, doesn't ask for me anything and the list continues.
As ugly as his living arrangement seems, I need to know if there's a possibility he could be telling the truth about the relationship between he and his daughter's mother or am I just completely out of my mind for remaining in a relationship with him?
Please give an honest opinion.









What can I say.
I've heard of stranger arrangements.
This is something only you can decide.
Trust your intuition and ask yourself what you want with this man.
Are you considering marriage in the future?
If so, is he willing to leave his current living arrangement?
Have the two of you discussed having any kind of future together?
I know several couples through my practice who have had this type of arrangement and it is always a very individual thing.
I guess my answer in this case would depend on how close you feel to him and if the two of you are able to communicate about planning some kind of future together.

Sincerely,
Dr. TRuth

[Rose21]

To this day he still practically spends all of his time with me and goes home very late in the evening.
He says the only reason he goes home at night and spends most of his weekends away from me is so he can dedicate some time to his daughter.

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I strongly believe he's still sleeping with with his childs mother. If he was single, over the year they have been dating he would have spend at least one night with her. He's using the kid as an excuse and to make her fell guilty. THE MAN HIS A LIER!

[ECO]

What an absolute load of dog tripe...
She only discovered this after 8 months?

I don't fall for this same house, different bed business. Why not just move out?
Kids are resilient - they will cope if mommy/daddy moves out.

HOWEVER, if she is happy to live like that, then she can't complain when one day he announces that the BABY MADA is pregnant

Why not move out= pick 10 couples that you know with kids, how many of them have enough extra money floating around to support two households? I know a few couples that live together because they can not afford to be apart..........only they can judge if they are doing to right thing.

Without rereading the initial post that might be an option for the guy if he could move in with the girl and chip in little to nothing to their new living arrangement. Sort of guessing since we don't know if he is loaded or if the wife has a BF that is ready to move in.

Kids actually don't cope well, they grow up all screwed up when it comes to friendships and relationships......I know that first hand. What I don't know is if they turn out the same if they grow up in a household with two parents that sleep in different beds or fail to love one another.

[Rose21]

First I thing Dr. Truth needs to be more truthful in her answers and says what she really feels. In this case she should be pointing and laughing. I wonder where he telling his child's mother he is when he's spending time witht this woman. Since he gives this woman such good advice, she should allow him to advice her on this situation.

Working overtime!

The numbers excuse in the book. Now that excuse would not work with me. If my husband suddenly started working late, I would have to buy a bottle of champagne (in case he is really working late I would have an excuse as to why I am there ) grab two glasses and go pay him a surprise visit.

Now if baby boy isn't there he would have some splaning to do.

Before or after you smash him on the with the champagne bottle?