Hide and Seek Relationship

[damswell]

if heard stories just like this one before....what a shame

[ECO]

Yes it is quite common.

If you had a friend in this position, what would your advice to them be?

How about " congrats on finding a good player". Honestly what else can you say?

[MZKUMA]

This young man is not a person of integrity. He is a liar. He is dishonest and he is a master of deception. This is not a man to be proud of. He may be using you or he may be using the woman he married.

He is using them both.

I totally agree. He better hurry up and become independent. WHEN the wife finds out (just a matter of time) he's gonna hate it.

[MZKUMA]

It's one thing to be a young fool. Another thing to be an old fool. If she's American she already know of men who have done this type of thing. That possibility isn't something she doesn't have thoughts of. If I had a friend an knew for certain of his affair, I would not allow myself to not tell her. What she does with the information is totally up to her. You can not do wrong and get right from it.

[ECO]

It's one thing to be a young fool. Another thing to be an old fool. If she's American she already know of men who have done this type of thing. That possibility isn't something she doesn't have thoughts of. If I had a friend an knew for certain of his affair, I would not allow myself to not tell her. What she does with the information is totally up to her. You can not do wrong and get right from it.

I can understand your way of thinking as I would do the same. At least 1-3-5-20 years down the road they will not hate you for hiding what was going on.

[Rose21]

I have had so much experience in talking to friends about such matters. It makes no difference. When a person has a mindset they hardly ever changes until it has runs it's course. Case in point the guy who's whining over the five years he wasted with his gold digger girlfriend after being warned by family and friends. They never listen. If I am asked for my opinion I will give it, on the other hand I am tired of grown folks making a mess of their lives for no good reason when all the signs are there that the relationship is going to turn into one big mess. I mean really, do we honestly think that this woman needs advice from Pastor. If she did not realise that something was wrong, she would not have been prompted to write the letter in the first place.

If we can see it why can’t they

? This question should be the next topic for discussion.

Because they are blinded by love!