Sex on the First Date - Easy or Not?

[Rose21]

Grandpa kills me!

If she gives it up the first time she met the guy yes, she's easy.
It sets a bad example, it make some men lose respect for women and expect every women to give it up on the first date.

[Rose21]

Tinks, I'ld rather scratch the itch myself
However, if both parties had an understanding from day one that they are not interested in a serious relationship and it strickly sex, then I am cool with that. But, I'ld go on a couple more dates just to feel that person out-it's not in my nature to give it up on the first date.

Sometimes I think I'm just too old fashion..I better get with the program

[JamaicaSteve]

Nothing wrong with 'old fashioned' Rose...

Personally, I don't think it's a 'black and white' answer, more grey really...I feel that a man or woman who 'gives it up' on MANY first dates is 'loose', however I also believe that sometimes timing, mutual respect, 'love at first sight', immediate closeness with lots of communication, fate, soul-matedness... can lead to intimacy on the first encounter and there's nothing necessarily wrong with that, nor do I believe that it's necessarily a 'bad way' to start a long term relationship... Again, I think it 'can' be, but on the other hand, the deepest love I've ever known blossomed from a 'chance encounter' worthy of the steamiest of romance novels...

Blessings and respect.
Steve

[Jelakins]

Nothing wrong with 'old fashioned' Rose...

Personally, I don't think it's a 'black and white' answer, more grey really...I feel that a man or woman who 'gives it up' on MANY first dates is 'loose', however I also believe that sometimes timing, mutual respect, 'love at first sight', immediate closeness with lots of communication, fate, soul-matedness... can lead to intimacy on the first encounter and there's nothing necessarily wrong with that, nor do I believe that it's necessarily a 'bad way' to start a long term relationship... Again, I think it 'can' be, but on the other hand, the deepest love I've ever known blossomed from a 'chance encounter' worthy of the steamiest of romance novels...

Blessings and respect.
Steve

And that is where I stand on this issue....

Someone in the piece actually said that too.... if s/he does it first time every time then they're easy... if it happens 'once' it was because the time was right...

I ain't sitting in judgement.... do what y'all wanna do if it feels right and its safe!

[Wahoo]

If she's really hot, I'm all in favor of sex at first sight!

[GhettoGurl]

I have actually discussed this topic with a bunch of male friends since I am writing a piece about it for my (yet to be released) blog (lol)!

Sex on the first date, does not rule out a longterm relationship. Men (the 5 I asked) get emotionally involved with women they have frequent sex with... or they get attached after they have had sex various times. It didnt matter if she gave it on the first date or not. I remember Rambo harassing me 2 years after we met about why I went to 2nd base with him on the first night. He asked if I did that with more people... I obviously answered he was the ONLY one So I guess it differs for every man.

A wise friend replied to my question saying, so you held off sex for 6 dates the last time right? On which I answered yes.. he replied.. and where are you now with him?

So I agree with what JaSteve and Jels said.

If a woman gives out p*ssy on a first date she is not disgracing women in general. Everybody has a right to set their own standards.

[ECO]

Some random thoughts;

I would respect a woman who puts out on the first date more than a woman who waits because she cares more about what others think of her than what feels good for her at the moment.

Dates don't have to be about building some relationship.........they work fine to find a good fuc buddy.

I've never been on a 3rd date and very few second dates without already having sex with them. Not bragging or admitting to being an ass and blowing the women off that don't put out....maybe I wanted to see if we were a match in bed first and then a match outside of bed???????


All guys will put out on the first date so maybe if women hold back they are into games?

With all of that said, a friend of mine had a date a while back and his lady friend laid the ground rules, "no sex until we both have an STD test" <---I can respect that!

[LadySizzla]

I'm with Eco on this one.

I had a 10 year marriage after shagging the first nite. the reason it ended was hardly cos we got jiggy on the first nite.

i had a 3 year relaionship having sex the first nite.

i had a 7 month relationship having sex the first time.

I recently had a 6 month relationship having sex the first nite.

not only does this prove that i am so good in bed that people want to see me again (and then they get to know my personality which seals the deal lol) but that all that crap about men not respectin women who give them sex is just that...crap. men love women who love sex and have no issues and hang ups. in my opinion they are MORE likely to respect you and when the sex bit is dealt with then you can get down to getting to know each other without worrying about whether your gonna get laid or not, or whether he is just being nice cos he wnts to get sex.

break open the chastity belts ladies and enjoy life

[LadySizzla]

I'm with Eco on this one.

I had a 10 year marriage after shagging the first nite. the reason it ended was hardly cos we got jiggy on the first nite.

i had a 3 year relaionship having sex the first nite.

i had a 7 month relationship having sex the first time.

I recently had a 6 month relationship having sex the first nite.

not only does this prove that i am so good in bed that people want to see me again (and then they get to know my personality which seals the deal lol) but that all that crap about men not respectin women who give them sex is just that...crap. men love women who love sex and have no issues and hang ups. in my opinion they are MORE likely to respect you and when the sex bit is dealt with then you can get down to getting to know each other without worrying about whether your gonna get laid or not, or whether he is just being nice cos he wnts to get sex.

break open the chastity belts ladies and enjoy life

oh i forgot to mention there are exceptions to this rule....big brother and Pastor Preacher

[ECO]

break open the chastity belts ladies and enjoy life

I agree unless my daughters ever grow up and read this forum