Should we stay together for the sake of the kids?

[GhettoGurl]

I am happy me and Nigel's daddy didn't try to stay together for the sake of our kid.... he would have ended up with one dead parent and the other in jail

I will do my very utmost best not to ever put myself into a situation that compromises my happiness or my kid(s)

[Rose21]

I would not say in a relationship for the sake of the kids.
They would have to learn to deal with the one parent household.
I have yet to hear a child say he/she was emotionally distraut because of
the seperation of the parents.
Whats better, keep me and the children in the hell hole, or provide a peaceful stable home for us all

[LadySizzla]

i think people who stay together because of the kids are often not always thinking of the kids but of themselves and fear of losing the partner for either love or financial reasons. it can be a huge cop out and ive seen it happen in front of my eyes. some people cant bear to see their child cry as their partner leaves but were quite willing to see their child cry when mammy and daddy argued. if people stay together for the kids and actually adequately meet the needs of the kid then all credit to them. but i personally think children should be offered reality and truth rather than a sugar coated view of life only to be hit in later life that their reality was actually a lie.

[ECO]

i think people who stay together because of the kids are often not always thinking of the kids but of themselves and fear of losing the partner for either love or financial reasons. it can be a huge cop out and ive seen it happen in front of my eyes. some people cant bear to see their child cry as their partner leaves but were quite willing to see their child cry when mammy and daddy argued. if people stay together for the kids and actually adequately meet the needs of the kid then all credit to them. but i personally think children should be offered reality and truth rather than a sugar coated view of life only to be hit in later life that their reality was actually a lie.

That's some food for thought!

[LadySizzla]

Well said Sizz!

Although Parents try to do what they think is best for their kids, they can't and don't always get it right, and an introduction to the harsh realities of life can't do anything but good IMO. It's a way of learning how to deal with life as we get older. I had a fairly sheltered upbringing, and I will be the first to put my hands up and say that I don't deal with some things as well as I should.

For example I hate to see people arguing and getting nasty and physical with each other. It is not something I am used to, and bothers me when I see it. Even at my age I still get shocked at how people behave towards each other sometimes.

Thanks chuck. I'm not a mother either so i can't talk from that perspective. But i can talk from the perspective of a child whose parents split from an early age, and I personally am glad that happened as i know now that staying together would have made both of my parents unhappy, and most likely all of us kids unhappy too.